Have you ever taken a really close look at where you get your advice? Are you getting relationship advice from your friend who’s had a string of failed marriages? Are you getting financial advice from a family member who’s been in debt for years? Career advice from a coworker who hates her job with a passion?
It’s no secret that no matter what our intentions are, we’re hugely affected by the people we come into contact with on a daily basis. When looking for advice, the easiest thing to do is to tap into the people we hang out with, whether they’re qualified or not to actually give us the best advice.
It’s sometimes very difficult to find someone who’s super successful in business, finances, relationships and other areas of life, so by default, we seek out the advice of people we like and are connected to, even though they’re complete failures in these areas. By modeling these people, we’re creating conditions in our lives that ensure that we become failures in these areas as well.
The solution to this problem is to proactively and consciously seek out only those people who are super successful in any given area we’re hoping to improve, and model them instead. Although it takes you a bit out of your comfort zone, these people are very available and willing to help you, if you just take the effort to find them and ask.
Action Steps:
1. Pick one area of your life that you’re currently working on improving.
2. Write down your current situation as it relates to that one area. Where are you now?
3. Write down your desired outcome. What does the new you look like once you get this area of your life handled?
4. Make a written list of all people you’re currently using for advice and mentoring in this area. Include everyone you talk to, consult with, bounce ideas off of and consult.
5. Next to each name, objectively rate their level of success in this area of life.
6. put a check or X next to each name.
7. make list: people you know, or have heard of who are the most successful in this area.
8. Prioritize them
9. Next to each name, make a list is tangible action steps that would allow you to spend time with them, either for a one time interview, or on a regular repeating basis.
10. Commit to taking the required steps that will ensure that you spend as much time as possible with the selected people on your list.
I believe that implementing this one change will have an exponential effect on helping you to create the new conditions in your life that you desire.
